D's favorite thing to do is point his finger upward and proclaim, "Idiot husband!" when a commercial like so has played. I don't know how I never noticed, but it's 100% true.
Have any of you ever noticed this?
So what's the answer? Are husbands really that dumb? OR...do they just have a different perspective. Ever heard of what's called the naggy wife. Of course you have. Well, I think every wife is a naggy wife. At least that's what a TV show I watched the other day said. And maybe I like to think that to make myself feel a little bit better about the nagging I may throw out. "Wipe the pee of the seat", "Put the toilet seat down", "You're dropping crumbs", "Don't leave your dirty clothes on the ground", "Take your shoes off", "Dry off before getting out of the shower", "Put your dirty dishes in the dishwasher", "Fart in the other room", the list goes on, right? I have a feeling a lot of these sound familiar to a lot of you.
But are these things really important? Do they really matter? In the moment, yes. But I have thought before that I would miss his dirty socks on the ground if he weren't around. I would long for the seat to be left up. Sounds crazy, but it's true. Because all of these things mean that we're here, together. We're married. We're human. We're not perfect.
So what is the right answer? Well, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. I believe that men and women have different perspectives and have a hard time understanding each other's when it comes to these things, but in the end, these things are not important.
Honey, this doesn't mean you can leave your dirty socks on the floor tonight. :)
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Am I the only immature one who giggled at "Fart in the other room"? STORY OF MY LIFE! =] I love your blog Amanda!
ReplyDeleteYou're so sweet! I am glad you laughed. I figured some would find it immature and just roll their eyes. Haha.
DeleteI am SOOOO glad your nagging sounds just like mine!
ReplyDeleteI'm loving this validation that i'm not the only naggy wife. :)
DeleteHaha I have noticed with Seth being gone these past months that I miss all those things he did that drove me insane and sent me into nagging wife mode. I can honestly say I'm tickled pink to being driven insane again :)
ReplyDeleteThat's so good! Remind yourself later on when the feeling has worn off how much you missed it. I have to remind myself sometimes of when we were apart and I didn't care about all of the little things. It's a good feeling to have!
DeleteI quit nagging about a few things for quite a long time. But I have complained that I just can't keep up with the messes everyone leaves. The other day I said, "Do you think you could wash your whiskers down the sink? It really makes a huge difference in how clean it stays in here." And for a week - no whiskers! And every day I have made sure to point out how clean it has stayed because he has done that. I think it may have worked! I am going to try it with something else now :)
ReplyDeleteLove it. Good advice!
DeleteWas this post written by my wife Amanda?
ReplyDeleteHaha. Love it
DeleteThere are some idiot husbands out there and there are those of us who snagged one who does think on occasion. Yes, they leave the toilet seat up and they drop their socks, crumbs, shoes on the floor, but they think about us and really do try to pitch in to help. I think your mom has the right idea about the nagging issue. You've got to give them a decent reason as to why it needs to be different (without telling them they're stupid for not thinking about it earlier) and then praise when it's done to your liking. We still react to that kind of encouragement in the same way that we did when we were kids. Funny how we never change in some ways.
ReplyDeleteIt's so true!
DeleteHow funny, Chris and I were talking about this just the other day! Even using some of the same phrases you just used! Crazycrazy. The interesting thing is that one of the talks in priesthood session touched on this, talking about how the media is portraying men nowadays in this same bungling, unmanly light, and what we are to do about it. Interesting stuff.
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